Can we be raw for a minute, here? Life is fucking hard, man. If I don't put forward the amount of effort society deems necessary, then society scolds me. And rightfully so. Those who work hard deliver results. We can fight about it all we want; we can bitch about how much society demands from us as humans, but we know the truth. It's not that we are lazy--I'm not sure I believe in lazy--it's that we don't have a strong enough "why". Meaning is such a powerful concept that I lost along the way, or maybe I didn't have it to begin with.
So, you're wondering: who the hell is this dude and why do I care? Well, you probably don't care, and I support your decision to not care, because this is 80% for me and 20% for someone else--whomever that may be. Anywho, my name is Dan, and I'm a recent graduate from Trent University in Peterborough, Ontario with a Bachelor of Science Honours in Computing Systems (Software Engineering). My cGPA was ~2.97. First year was a 3.5, and it tumbled year over year until graduation day. I don't know why it tumbled. Maybe I didn't love the courses or the teachers or the homework? Or, maybe I had no reason to perform better? Maybe I had no why? Yes, I suspect my lack of motivation was a combination of disorientation and an absent overarching reason to be there. It was like that in high school, where my average was 66%!
The point of these posts is to give me a space for self-reflection and expression. It's also to call myself out on some things, though. I titled this post "< X-bar", because I truly believe that, at the present moment, I am performing less than average. By average, I mean the performance of an average student admitted to medical school. High standards to live up to, but I'm tired of being this person that I am, and this blog is my "coming out"--so to speak--to you, world. This blog is me saying "I have not lived up to society's and my own expectations. I have not failed, but I have not succeeded." These posts are also a plea to you, world, to hold me accountable, to give me strength, and to call me out when I have taken more than I have given. The greatest doctors, I must assume, are also some of the greatest givers.
The seed of wanting to become a doctor was planted in me long ago. Well over 10 years ago, when I was in high school. But, I was not serious back then, and I was not mature in the ways I ought to have been. After high school, I tried college 5+ times--dropping out each time. I burned 10s of thousands of dollars on a fruitless pursuit. To this day, it is my largest regret. Perhaps I will forgive myself for these actions some day; perhaps not. To add jet fuel to the fire, I jumped from job to job, burning bridges as I went. I quit jobs without notice--I simply didn't show up one day--and I quit the military 2 weeks into basic training because it was too hard. I told my section sergeant it was for moral reasons, which at the time I felt it was, but looking back, it's clear I quit because that's what I do when things get hard.
Then, I met my girlfriend (now fiance), who pushed me to do well in first year of university. I am so thankful for this. This was the greatest thing that could have happened to me, but I retreated back to my comfortable zone of slacking by, and I don't blame her for not being on my ass all the way through university, because that's on me. I was the student. Not her. Still, she's an amazing person, and if something terrible were to happen or the love were to fizzle, I doubt I would pursue love again. I told that to a counselor once, and he didn't believe me. Ah, well.
I think that's all I have to say for now. You know who I am and where I've been. This post was a background and introduction, and I welcome all comments--not just the good ones. If you want to say "Dan, you sound like a low life piece of shit, and you will never become a doctor, because there are people out there far better than you...", then I accept that. I thank you for your openness and expression and wish peace and goodness upon you. I also accept positive posts or shared stories of your own. Silence is also accepted, for it's unlikely anyone will even read this.
Until next time.
I recently read in one of the foreign sites:
Adults often difficult to reach an agreement, let alone when we apply this concept to the world of a child, a small child. Inability to communicate makes that we can not find a common language and a common contact (verbal or non-verbal) is broken.
When the family of the young man appears, parents instinctively surrounded by care and love. With the eagerly expect when their child will be big enough to alone could communicate, or verbalize their needs. Crying baby often causes the parents feeling of helplessness and frustration when they can not read his cause.
In the 90s, scientists have developed a system called bobomigami characters that rely on sign language and are used for communication with the baby. The method developed by Joseph Garcia is effective in communicating with infants both deaf and hearing. It can be used from the eighth-ninth month of life, when it can no longer consciously use known characters. They allow you to express needs and feelings of the child. Sample messages are: eat, drink, sleep, mother, hurt, bear, dad. In the beginning, choose a few words and repeat them several times. It is important that learning takes place through play.
The use of sign language for babies brings a lot of advantages:
helps the child to communicate with the environment, and parents - take care of a baby
contributes to the development of speech
stimulates the development of coordination of visual - spatial
develops imagination and manual skills
facilitates storing, preparing for later literacy
improves concentration comments
affect the intellectual development
strengthens the emotional bond between parents and their comfort
Joseph Garcia method known as "SIGN2BABY" into Polish adapted Danuta Mikulska, the inspiration became Polish Sign Language signs. Currently in the country, more and more clubs, where you can learn the secrets of "bobomigania".