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    cleanup got a reaction from A_K.Daniel in The slow decay of dentistry   
    Every PM he has ever sent me is about money.
    None of those numbers make sense, never mind the premise of a dentist being paid on salary unless they work in a hospital or for a public health service, for the military, a prison, etc. 
    There are a few people from U of T that I avoid associating with (both in, above and below my class) because of their unhealthy, twisted obsession on climbing some imaginary ladder, making more money, seeing more patients, doing more things than everybody else. They're like that kid who got busted for padding his resume with tons of fake publications (I don't know the whole story and I won't go into that, whatever). Most of them were highly academic, high achieving folks in high school & undergrad, and tried to keep that up in dental school and may very well have done so. I just find it sad that you have nothing else to hang your hat on. If they lost their ability to achieve academically or in the realm of dentistry, they'd have nothing. No confidence, no self worth, no wits about them.
    There's a hell of a lot more to life than the bubble/echo chamber that this entire place is. Just saying.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Ms_Sunshine in Dilemma: Take time off or finish undergrad?   
    You think your past self defines your present self, but it is in fact your future self that you should be using to define your current self.
    Focus on who you want to be, not who you have been. Where are you going? What are you striving for? Why are you doing it?
    This is an issue of self-limiting beliefs, it turns out, not an issue of what the 'best' course of action is.
    Think of it this way. You want to go to dental school. Okay. Be very honest and clear with yourself about what someone who really wants to go to dental school would do, and then do everything in your power to do that. You shouldn't be afraid of failing. You should be afraid of not trying. It really is as simple as that.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Mooshy99 in Dilemma: Take time off or finish undergrad?   
    You think your past self defines your present self, but it is in fact your future self that you should be using to define your current self.
    Focus on who you want to be, not who you have been. Where are you going? What are you striving for? Why are you doing it?
    This is an issue of self-limiting beliefs, it turns out, not an issue of what the 'best' course of action is.
    Think of it this way. You want to go to dental school. Okay. Be very honest and clear with yourself about what someone who really wants to go to dental school would do, and then do everything in your power to do that. You shouldn't be afraid of failing. You should be afraid of not trying. It really is as simple as that.
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    cleanup got a reaction from HopefulDDS in Dilemma: Take time off or finish undergrad?   
    You think your past self defines your present self, but it is in fact your future self that you should be using to define your current self.
    Focus on who you want to be, not who you have been. Where are you going? What are you striving for? Why are you doing it?
    This is an issue of self-limiting beliefs, it turns out, not an issue of what the 'best' course of action is.
    Think of it this way. You want to go to dental school. Okay. Be very honest and clear with yourself about what someone who really wants to go to dental school would do, and then do everything in your power to do that. You shouldn't be afraid of failing. You should be afraid of not trying. It really is as simple as that.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Mooshy99 in Dilemma: Take time off or finish undergrad?   
    I'm gonna play devil's advocate (because it's fun) and poke a few holes in your thinking.
    Nobody really cares for their degree. If your goal is dental school, then you're not wrong, the undergrad degree doesn't really matter. It's a vehicle for getting grades, learning how to study, getting to know yourself and getting some life experience, enjoying life, making friends, and then moving on.
    But failing to finish it doesn't seem wise to me; it would be cheapening the last 3 years of your life. You can still apply to U of T dental even if you write the DAT in November, so why not do that and finish your degree? At least for one application cycle, whatever grades you receive in your 4th year won't register for admissions until after you're accepted (and as long as you don't flunk, you're fine).
    I'm sure there are ways you can mitigate the 'difficulty' of your fourth year. And even if there isn't, it's still worth completing.
    As for the dental hygiene route, do not mistaken dental hygiene for an easy degree; it's not. You learn a lot of things just as in depth as in dental school, and it's a two-year degree. I would wager that if you actually go that route, and finish dental hygiene, you'll be less and less inclined to take a stab at U of T dental.
    Take the hand you've been dealt. You're lucky. You have options. You have high grades. Why are you pigeonholing yourself so early?
    Finish your degree, apply to U of T dental, and if you don't get in, then re-assess from there. 
    You should have a plan, but one that maximizes your options. I'd say your current plan is reducing them simply because you don't want to do a 4th year of undergrad.
    None of us wanted to do 4 years of undergrad, but hell, we all did. I did 5. 
    So I understand where the desire to bail on a few things now comes from (because our gut tells us to or because we don't feel an inclination toward them), but I don't think this is wise at all if your ultimate goal is to go to dental school.
    Just my two cents.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Maggiie19 in Dilemma: Take time off or finish undergrad?   
    I'm gonna play devil's advocate (because it's fun) and poke a few holes in your thinking.
    Nobody really cares for their degree. If your goal is dental school, then you're not wrong, the undergrad degree doesn't really matter. It's a vehicle for getting grades, learning how to study, getting to know yourself and getting some life experience, enjoying life, making friends, and then moving on.
    But failing to finish it doesn't seem wise to me; it would be cheapening the last 3 years of your life. You can still apply to U of T dental even if you write the DAT in November, so why not do that and finish your degree? At least for one application cycle, whatever grades you receive in your 4th year won't register for admissions until after you're accepted (and as long as you don't flunk, you're fine).
    I'm sure there are ways you can mitigate the 'difficulty' of your fourth year. And even if there isn't, it's still worth completing.
    As for the dental hygiene route, do not mistaken dental hygiene for an easy degree; it's not. You learn a lot of things just as in depth as in dental school, and it's a two-year degree. I would wager that if you actually go that route, and finish dental hygiene, you'll be less and less inclined to take a stab at U of T dental.
    Take the hand you've been dealt. You're lucky. You have options. You have high grades. Why are you pigeonholing yourself so early?
    Finish your degree, apply to U of T dental, and if you don't get in, then re-assess from there. 
    You should have a plan, but one that maximizes your options. I'd say your current plan is reducing them simply because you don't want to do a 4th year of undergrad.
    None of us wanted to do 4 years of undergrad, but hell, we all did. I did 5. 
    So I understand where the desire to bail on a few things now comes from (because our gut tells us to or because we don't feel an inclination toward them), but I don't think this is wise at all if your ultimate goal is to go to dental school.
    Just my two cents.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Prof.A.DumbleDore in Jobs after graduation   
    Most of the truly good jobs are found through networking. I've found good jobs through listings before, but that was years ago. The landscape has certainly changed in the GTA, especially with COVID.
    The last time our practice put up an ad for an associate about 18 months ago, we got like 100 applicants in the first two days. When that associate left for residency and we had to fill his position, I just asked someone I knew from school instead, and I'm glad I did.
    Good jobs do not need listings because the clinics and dentists who need help in a well-run, busy clinic know people who value the same traits & characteristics in other dentists. It's not hard to find people who want to work in a good work environment, obviously.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Zaandrei. in line of credit   
    Sounds like something worth $500! 
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    cleanup got a reaction from Starburst in Shadowing hours during COVID   
    Might be tricky due to restrictions around gathering, PPE, etc. Most offices are already struggling pretty bad with the PPE & infection control situation. Unnecessary bodies aren't ideal. We don't let family members/accompaniments in with patients unless absolutely necessary so might be tricky to let a student in (and we usually do a lot of shadowing from local hygiene/assisting schools).
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    cleanup got a reaction from Bxldo in The slow decay of dentistry   
    That wasn't directed at him necessarily, I don't know the guy. It's just an impression. But I personally know people like that and I never knew why I didn't really vibe with them or get along with them well. Then I realized it's because they're just in a completely different headspace, one where the only things that matter to them are external, superficial measures of 'success' and one-upping everyone around them. I know I often sound like the cynical old man around these parts trying to bestow 'perspective' out of some misplaced sense of righteousness, but truthfully it's because I used to be that guy, and when I found myself unhappy, stressed, too hung up on the opinion of others of myself, what I achieved, how productive I was, my grades, my bank account balance, I did a 180 and I gave it all up, improved myself, worked on my values & principles rather than my GPA or pocketbook, and let things play out as they should. Strangely enough, as a result of doing that, I work less, make more, connect with people better, and have a lot more fulfillment in my life. I'm also much more clear and careful about what I want. And ultimately, I realized that I didn't really care all that much about all the superficial shit; I was just conditioned to care about it; in the end, it's fruitless. Happiness, contentment and a sense of self come from within. Stop chasing it in money, dentistry, letters behind your name. I couldn't give two shits if you made $5 million last year. To me, a more important question is when was the last time you helped someone? Inspired someone? Made their day better? Mentored someone? Keep it in perspective; if your life is just about school, work and maybe money, then in my opinion, your life sucks.
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    cleanup got a reaction from HopefulDDS in Dental specializations (salaries, lifestyle, competition)   
    No one has a crystal ball, but I am pretty skeptical of how dentistry is moving in the coming decades. Like someone above mentioned, there's a lot of corporatization going on and an oversupply of dentists which is what's driving the changes we see in the industry.
    Namely labour is cheapening (lots of grads, lots of competition) and power is consolidating (corporatization, private equity, deep pockets, lots of lobbying power), in conjunction with weak professional camaraderie with respect to Colleges and regulatory bodies that actually look after the job market of their members (hint: ours don't).
    When I graduated in 2016, the associateship market was still pretty healthy. I had my pick of jobs, and in retrospect, I think I would have done well at any of them. Nowadays I know it's not so rosy; people are struggling to find jobs. On a Facebook dental group, I saw new Toronto grads clamouring to take a job at a hygiene clinic to do recall exams. Not cool.
    Corporations are becoming quite powerful as well. There's talk that the reason the RCDSO back-pedalled so hard on their COVID19 guidance is mainly due to lobbying pressure from dental corporations. Not from the little guy, not from the public, but from people who are bleeding millions of dollars a day and demand action.
    The RCDSO of course, has a tough job, but I believe their ability to lobby for its members (most importantly, the smallest voice, the little guy solo-practitioner or associate who just wants to do good work and go home) is exceedingly small. The CDA/ODA & other provincial associations are similarly just organizations that, in my opinion, take our money for very little in return. 
    You can absolutely still make a great living in dentistry, but the avenues to do so are narrowing. It doesn't help to just be the best, or just be the most business-savvy. At this point you kind of have to be both. A lot of confluence of factors have to come into play (along with some luck) to turn you into a successful practitioner. I think those who think just being a good clinician or just throwing money at the problem will solve things are in for a rough ride.
    In medicine there are similar issues, namely with competition, and the talent pool simply being so competitive (everyone wants to work at X hospital in Y city in Z specialty); but the good news is that although you are somewhat doggedly restrained by the chains of government & regulatory bureaucracy, those chains are golden in hue; you're paid by the taxpayer and you have powerful associations lobbying on your behalf. If things move, things move slowly.
    In dentistry it's a bit more wild-west, especially in the last 15 years or so, and personally I've seen more and more division/fragmentation in our field as people become more desperate. Some become far more powerful & influential, others fall by the wayside. People aren't picking each other up. Everyone's a little defensive, a little worried, a little strapped for cash, a little wary of the guy down the street.
    I think the simplicity of practice ownership is gone, I think income disparity & variability is very wide (this is not a good thing; it doesn't matter that some are making millions, it means many more are making peanuts), and I think that people have a tendency to undercut, rather than support each other, which only tarnishes the name of dentistry.
    Those 3 factors are the main things that I think are changing the landscape of dentistry: a gluttony of labour (bigger classes, equivalency exam), a consolidation of power & wealth (corporatization) and weak professionalism (our associations are largely spineless and out for themselves, not the majority of us).
    If I could sum up my ideas, I think that the 'security' in pursuing a career in dentistry is very much eroding.
    ———————————————————————————————————
    I don't mean for this to be all doom and gloom. As I mentioned you can still make a wonderful living in dentistry, and it's still a great career. I just think people should manage their expectations about it.  I'm lucky that my patients are lovely and 99% of them are grateful for what I do, and I make a good living (with respect to the averages in Canada, not necessarily with respect to other health professions). But I do realize that we are on a downhill trajectory, not an uphill one.
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    cleanup got a reaction from VivaColombia in Dental specializations (salaries, lifestyle, competition)   
    No one has a crystal ball, but I am pretty skeptical of how dentistry is moving in the coming decades. Like someone above mentioned, there's a lot of corporatization going on and an oversupply of dentists which is what's driving the changes we see in the industry.
    Namely labour is cheapening (lots of grads, lots of competition) and power is consolidating (corporatization, private equity, deep pockets, lots of lobbying power), in conjunction with weak professional camaraderie with respect to Colleges and regulatory bodies that actually look after the job market of their members (hint: ours don't).
    When I graduated in 2016, the associateship market was still pretty healthy. I had my pick of jobs, and in retrospect, I think I would have done well at any of them. Nowadays I know it's not so rosy; people are struggling to find jobs. On a Facebook dental group, I saw new Toronto grads clamouring to take a job at a hygiene clinic to do recall exams. Not cool.
    Corporations are becoming quite powerful as well. There's talk that the reason the RCDSO back-pedalled so hard on their COVID19 guidance is mainly due to lobbying pressure from dental corporations. Not from the little guy, not from the public, but from people who are bleeding millions of dollars a day and demand action.
    The RCDSO of course, has a tough job, but I believe their ability to lobby for its members (most importantly, the smallest voice, the little guy solo-practitioner or associate who just wants to do good work and go home) is exceedingly small. The CDA/ODA & other provincial associations are similarly just organizations that, in my opinion, take our money for very little in return. 
    You can absolutely still make a great living in dentistry, but the avenues to do so are narrowing. It doesn't help to just be the best, or just be the most business-savvy. At this point you kind of have to be both. A lot of confluence of factors have to come into play (along with some luck) to turn you into a successful practitioner. I think those who think just being a good clinician or just throwing money at the problem will solve things are in for a rough ride.
    In medicine there are similar issues, namely with competition, and the talent pool simply being so competitive (everyone wants to work at X hospital in Y city in Z specialty); but the good news is that although you are somewhat doggedly restrained by the chains of government & regulatory bureaucracy, those chains are golden in hue; you're paid by the taxpayer and you have powerful associations lobbying on your behalf. If things move, things move slowly.
    In dentistry it's a bit more wild-west, especially in the last 15 years or so, and personally I've seen more and more division/fragmentation in our field as people become more desperate. Some become far more powerful & influential, others fall by the wayside. People aren't picking each other up. Everyone's a little defensive, a little worried, a little strapped for cash, a little wary of the guy down the street.
    I think the simplicity of practice ownership is gone, I think income disparity & variability is very wide (this is not a good thing; it doesn't matter that some are making millions, it means many more are making peanuts), and I think that people have a tendency to undercut, rather than support each other, which only tarnishes the name of dentistry.
    Those 3 factors are the main things that I think are changing the landscape of dentistry: a gluttony of labour (bigger classes, equivalency exam), a consolidation of power & wealth (corporatization) and weak professionalism (our associations are largely spineless and out for themselves, not the majority of us).
    If I could sum up my ideas, I think that the 'security' in pursuing a career in dentistry is very much eroding.
    ———————————————————————————————————
    I don't mean for this to be all doom and gloom. As I mentioned you can still make a wonderful living in dentistry, and it's still a great career. I just think people should manage their expectations about it.  I'm lucky that my patients are lovely and 99% of them are grateful for what I do, and I make a good living (with respect to the averages in Canada, not necessarily with respect to other health professions). But I do realize that we are on a downhill trajectory, not an uphill one.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Stethescope in Dental specializations (salaries, lifestyle, competition)   
    No one has a crystal ball, but I am pretty skeptical of how dentistry is moving in the coming decades. Like someone above mentioned, there's a lot of corporatization going on and an oversupply of dentists which is what's driving the changes we see in the industry.
    Namely labour is cheapening (lots of grads, lots of competition) and power is consolidating (corporatization, private equity, deep pockets, lots of lobbying power), in conjunction with weak professional camaraderie with respect to Colleges and regulatory bodies that actually look after the job market of their members (hint: ours don't).
    When I graduated in 2016, the associateship market was still pretty healthy. I had my pick of jobs, and in retrospect, I think I would have done well at any of them. Nowadays I know it's not so rosy; people are struggling to find jobs. On a Facebook dental group, I saw new Toronto grads clamouring to take a job at a hygiene clinic to do recall exams. Not cool.
    Corporations are becoming quite powerful as well. There's talk that the reason the RCDSO back-pedalled so hard on their COVID19 guidance is mainly due to lobbying pressure from dental corporations. Not from the little guy, not from the public, but from people who are bleeding millions of dollars a day and demand action.
    The RCDSO of course, has a tough job, but I believe their ability to lobby for its members (most importantly, the smallest voice, the little guy solo-practitioner or associate who just wants to do good work and go home) is exceedingly small. The CDA/ODA & other provincial associations are similarly just organizations that, in my opinion, take our money for very little in return. 
    You can absolutely still make a great living in dentistry, but the avenues to do so are narrowing. It doesn't help to just be the best, or just be the most business-savvy. At this point you kind of have to be both. A lot of confluence of factors have to come into play (along with some luck) to turn you into a successful practitioner. I think those who think just being a good clinician or just throwing money at the problem will solve things are in for a rough ride.
    In medicine there are similar issues, namely with competition, and the talent pool simply being so competitive (everyone wants to work at X hospital in Y city in Z specialty); but the good news is that although you are somewhat doggedly restrained by the chains of government & regulatory bureaucracy, those chains are golden in hue; you're paid by the taxpayer and you have powerful associations lobbying on your behalf. If things move, things move slowly.
    In dentistry it's a bit more wild-west, especially in the last 15 years or so, and personally I've seen more and more division/fragmentation in our field as people become more desperate. Some become far more powerful & influential, others fall by the wayside. People aren't picking each other up. Everyone's a little defensive, a little worried, a little strapped for cash, a little wary of the guy down the street.
    I think the simplicity of practice ownership is gone, I think income disparity & variability is very wide (this is not a good thing; it doesn't matter that some are making millions, it means many more are making peanuts), and I think that people have a tendency to undercut, rather than support each other, which only tarnishes the name of dentistry.
    Those 3 factors are the main things that I think are changing the landscape of dentistry: a gluttony of labour (bigger classes, equivalency exam), a consolidation of power & wealth (corporatization) and weak professionalism (our associations are largely spineless and out for themselves, not the majority of us).
    If I could sum up my ideas, I think that the 'security' in pursuing a career in dentistry is very much eroding.
    ———————————————————————————————————
    I don't mean for this to be all doom and gloom. As I mentioned you can still make a wonderful living in dentistry, and it's still a great career. I just think people should manage their expectations about it.  I'm lucky that my patients are lovely and 99% of them are grateful for what I do, and I make a good living (with respect to the averages in Canada, not necessarily with respect to other health professions). But I do realize that we are on a downhill trajectory, not an uphill one.
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    cleanup got a reaction from grinjo in Moving away   
    You're moving to BC, not to Zimbabwe.
    You're young and you would benefit greatly from seeing this as an opportunity to learn, be open minded, meet new people, and experience life.
    If you want life to be stable, predictable, same-same, forever, not only will you a) be sorely disappointed but also b) possibly bored and stunted. That's just my opinion, but I would argue that as someone who is going to professional school, you may want to maintain that curious, open, experience-driven mindset.
    I grew up in a small town for 15 years, and then moved halfway around the world to Asia for a few years. It took a lot of convincing from my family, but it is by far and above a defining period in my life. It opened my mind, it opened my world. I would not be who I am today if not for that experience. Truth be told, I think my life would be much more regressive, narrow in experience and boring had I not been exposed to something so unfamiliar.
    I then moved to Toronto when I was 18 for school, and lived on my own while my family was still in Asia. That again, was initially worrying, but living on my own, responsible solely for myself, with only myself to rely upon, was again untold in its enriching value.
    Have fun. Enjoy yourself. Learn, meet, grow.
    I would not be surprised in the least if 4 years from now you end up staying in Vancouver, or moving somewhere you never would have dreamed of now. You're young as hell; don't let the importance and freedom of that be lost on you.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Dentiste in 3/4 Through Dental School and Still Thinking Medicine   
    Would you be interested in a non-operative subspecialty of dentistry like pathology, radiology or public health?
    Keep in mind that dental school is a flashpoint. I nearly quit 2 or 3 times. I didn't develop my hand skils really until a few years of practice after graduation. I still have days where I ponder, "Man, am I any good at this? Is this what I want?" and other days when I love it, and realize that I'm fucking awesome and I love it.
    That's kind of how life is. It's up, down, and you have to find meaning for yourself with the cards you've been dealt. 
    I would challenge you to consider a) what can you do in your current reality to make it better for yourself, and b) ponder why you really seem to dislike dentistry; is it on an objective basis or moreso because you feel some regret over not having pursued medicine?
    Let us keep in mind that regret is merely the psychological difference between your current objective reality and a completely imaginary alternate universe where you did the other thing.
    Look inward. Give your current circumstances a fair shake, and be grateful for them.
    If you genuinely still feel out of place, out of mind, inauthentic after exhausting all your current avenues, then go for it. I'll be the first person to cheer you on, but also the first person to ask you to question yourself.
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    cleanup got a reaction from TheGreatPiper in line of credit   
    Sounds like something worth $500! 
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    cleanup got a reaction from toothurty in line of credit   
    Sounds like something worth $500! 
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    cleanup got a reaction from jenkins in Moving away   
    You're moving to BC, not to Zimbabwe.
    You're young and you would benefit greatly from seeing this as an opportunity to learn, be open minded, meet new people, and experience life.
    If you want life to be stable, predictable, same-same, forever, not only will you a) be sorely disappointed but also b) possibly bored and stunted. That's just my opinion, but I would argue that as someone who is going to professional school, you may want to maintain that curious, open, experience-driven mindset.
    I grew up in a small town for 15 years, and then moved halfway around the world to Asia for a few years. It took a lot of convincing from my family, but it is by far and above a defining period in my life. It opened my mind, it opened my world. I would not be who I am today if not for that experience. Truth be told, I think my life would be much more regressive, narrow in experience and boring had I not been exposed to something so unfamiliar.
    I then moved to Toronto when I was 18 for school, and lived on my own while my family was still in Asia. That again, was initially worrying, but living on my own, responsible solely for myself, with only myself to rely upon, was again untold in its enriching value.
    Have fun. Enjoy yourself. Learn, meet, grow.
    I would not be surprised in the least if 4 years from now you end up staying in Vancouver, or moving somewhere you never would have dreamed of now. You're young as hell; don't let the importance and freedom of that be lost on you.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Fentist in Moving away   
    You're moving to BC, not to Zimbabwe.
    You're young and you would benefit greatly from seeing this as an opportunity to learn, be open minded, meet new people, and experience life.
    If you want life to be stable, predictable, same-same, forever, not only will you a) be sorely disappointed but also b) possibly bored and stunted. That's just my opinion, but I would argue that as someone who is going to professional school, you may want to maintain that curious, open, experience-driven mindset.
    I grew up in a small town for 15 years, and then moved halfway around the world to Asia for a few years. It took a lot of convincing from my family, but it is by far and above a defining period in my life. It opened my mind, it opened my world. I would not be who I am today if not for that experience. Truth be told, I think my life would be much more regressive, narrow in experience and boring had I not been exposed to something so unfamiliar.
    I then moved to Toronto when I was 18 for school, and lived on my own while my family was still in Asia. That again, was initially worrying, but living on my own, responsible solely for myself, with only myself to rely upon, was again untold in its enriching value.
    Have fun. Enjoy yourself. Learn, meet, grow.
    I would not be surprised in the least if 4 years from now you end up staying in Vancouver, or moving somewhere you never would have dreamed of now. You're young as hell; don't let the importance and freedom of that be lost on you.
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    cleanup got a reaction from toothurty in McGill vs UofT Vs UWO   
    For the better for students. More work for instructors like myself.
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    cleanup got a reaction from toothurty in Is shadowing needed to apply to dental school?   
    To be frank, I would shadow at some point during your application year so at least you gather some data about what you're getting yourself into.
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    cleanup got a reaction from HopefulDDS in Is shadowing needed to apply to dental school?   
    To be frank, I would shadow at some point during your application year so at least you gather some data about what you're getting yourself into.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Fred VanVleet's Tooth in McGill vs UofT Vs UWO   
    COVID was the impetus for it. I don't know nitty gritty details yet, it's preliminary, but the pandemic is a catalyst for changes that have been ripe for test driving.
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    cleanup got a reaction from RejectedAgain in Moving away   
    You're moving to BC, not to Zimbabwe.
    You're young and you would benefit greatly from seeing this as an opportunity to learn, be open minded, meet new people, and experience life.
    If you want life to be stable, predictable, same-same, forever, not only will you a) be sorely disappointed but also b) possibly bored and stunted. That's just my opinion, but I would argue that as someone who is going to professional school, you may want to maintain that curious, open, experience-driven mindset.
    I grew up in a small town for 15 years, and then moved halfway around the world to Asia for a few years. It took a lot of convincing from my family, but it is by far and above a defining period in my life. It opened my mind, it opened my world. I would not be who I am today if not for that experience. Truth be told, I think my life would be much more regressive, narrow in experience and boring had I not been exposed to something so unfamiliar.
    I then moved to Toronto when I was 18 for school, and lived on my own while my family was still in Asia. That again, was initially worrying, but living on my own, responsible solely for myself, with only myself to rely upon, was again untold in its enriching value.
    Have fun. Enjoy yourself. Learn, meet, grow.
    I would not be surprised in the least if 4 years from now you end up staying in Vancouver, or moving somewhere you never would have dreamed of now. You're young as hell; don't let the importance and freedom of that be lost on you.
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    cleanup got a reaction from Bambi in Moving away   
    You're moving to BC, not to Zimbabwe.
    You're young and you would benefit greatly from seeing this as an opportunity to learn, be open minded, meet new people, and experience life.
    If you want life to be stable, predictable, same-same, forever, not only will you a) be sorely disappointed but also b) possibly bored and stunted. That's just my opinion, but I would argue that as someone who is going to professional school, you may want to maintain that curious, open, experience-driven mindset.
    I grew up in a small town for 15 years, and then moved halfway around the world to Asia for a few years. It took a lot of convincing from my family, but it is by far and above a defining period in my life. It opened my mind, it opened my world. I would not be who I am today if not for that experience. Truth be told, I think my life would be much more regressive, narrow in experience and boring had I not been exposed to something so unfamiliar.
    I then moved to Toronto when I was 18 for school, and lived on my own while my family was still in Asia. That again, was initially worrying, but living on my own, responsible solely for myself, with only myself to rely upon, was again untold in its enriching value.
    Have fun. Enjoy yourself. Learn, meet, grow.
    I would not be surprised in the least if 4 years from now you end up staying in Vancouver, or moving somewhere you never would have dreamed of now. You're young as hell; don't let the importance and freedom of that be lost on you.
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