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  1. Thank you everyone for taking the time to write encouraging words and for sharing their personal stories. I have read and re-read your responses countless times. They've been a source of strength especially when I felt alone and self-conscious. Importantly, I also showed this thread to my loved ones who were also struggling with my match result. They were amazed to hear how common disappointment and struggles are in this carms process, often through no fault of the applicants (who generally have put in unthinkable amounts of effort and emotional investment over 4+ years). Although unfortunate, it was also comforting for them to know that regret, sadness and fear can happen even when people get their preferred choices. Because of your responses, we all learned the spectrum of intense emotions that goes from getting what (one thinks) one wants to going unmatched. The points brought up here helped my loved ones and I talk through difficult topics that actually extended beyond the superficial problem of "moving away." For example, my parents spoke about their fear of being abandoned in their old age. I also learned I was a protective factor when a friend was at a low point and thinking of ending his life. As many of you mentioned above, life is complex and perhaps these post-match feelings are influenced by/stem from things much more elaborate than disappointment over a result. It made me wonder how much each of us keep inside of ourselves, for whatever reasons...fear of being judged, no opportunity to be vulnerable, etc. Match day is such a huge deal for us M4's that it's easy to forget the way others may be feeling or affected. To the people who commented about lack of resilence or that perhaps I should've spent more time on my ROL: I still appreciate your comments and contributions to this topic. However, I also encourage you to consider the impact of your words on those who are going through stressful, tumultuous, and quickly-changing times. There are many factors beyond inertia or lack of gratefulness that contribute to post-match emotions. I am truly happy for you if you have never felt so dejected/lost/frustrated. Because it sucks. But I ask you this, is compassion to a hurting stranger a bad thing? As we have all experienced, this field can be isolating, exhausting, thankless even on good days. Criticizing people for having worries/interests/responsibilities/goals outside of medicine is a huge contributor to burnout and perpetuates unhealthy bullying behaviour. I am cognizant that my situation could definitely be worse. But this is not a stress/sacrifice Olympics. This past week has felt so long and I admit I've had some incredibly dark thoughts. But thank you all for showing me that I am not alone. That things will get better. That this is a distressing and confusing time for many of us, regardless of result. Hoping everyone stays safe and healthy during this difficult time. Keep well
  2. I matched to my #1 specialty in a liveable location. With CaRMS being such a crapshoot these days, I understand how lucky I am to get to say that. This post is in no way meant to be a humble brag or call for congratulations. I am really struggling with the idea of being 6000 km away from LITERALLY everyone I know. My parents are old and both not in great health. My girlfriend is still in residency and obviously can't relocate; this feels like the nail in the coffin for our relationship. All my buddies matched back home and I'm the only one in our group who's leaving. 2 of my siblings just had kids and I won't be there to help out or watch them grow up. This cross-country move requires funds I don't really have without going into crazy debt. Every day since the match, I have been crying. Also insomnia, lack of appetite, profound anhedonia. I hate waking up and having to face the day ahead. I often wish I could just not exist for a while. I keep wondering how I could've or should've done things differently throughout med school or during the CaRMS process. I feel like I effed up. Any words of advice? P.S. in general how hard is it to get a job in a city you did not train for residency? I can't think of anything except surviving these next 5 years and then taking any job (no matter how awful) so I can see my loved ones again.
  3. As an aside, how do programs feel when they match students who are lower on their list? Do they readjust and get excited regardless, or is there a sense of disappointment that lingers Maybe I'm projecting here, but my matched program was known to have a lot of students from their med school aiming for the specialty. But the >70% of those who matched to my program were not from their med school. Of course theres no way of knowing what happened but it strikes me as a bit odd
  4. Congrats on getting multiple med school interview offers. As beardedfrog said above, there is quite a bit of movement between provinces. At this stage I really think it is too early to be worrying about residency, and all of your possible acceptances are in Ontario anyway so it will not change anything to worry about chances of matching back home. With how fickle med school interview offers are, it is not like you'd reject any acceptances this cycle for a shot at getting accepted to a western canadian med school next time. As someone who just finished Carms a few days ago, there is truly too much variability to even try to predict where people will end up for residency!
  5. @Scinapse What year are you in, what specialty(ies) are you considering? Adding a bit more detail would enable the rest of the forum to give you more specific answers that are appropriate to your level of training and situation
  6. DEFINITELY NOT. The CaRMS website has a very extensive list of FAQs that clarify every possible situation: https://www.carms.ca/the-match/how-it-works/strategy They even say for you to rank places that DIDN'T give you an interview above places that DID, if you would rather train at those places. So really, it doesn't make sense to make an ROL based on any factors other than where you want to end up.
  7. As the tour progresses, I'm hearing the same few names being brought up by other applicants at the socials/in interview waiting rooms. These students have apparently gotten interviews at almost every program for our specialty. Does this make them the "superstar" applicants that have been described on these forums? And follow up question: I was talking to one of these superstars, and he said he wasn't happy with his interview performances so far (described them as probably average or maybe slightly below average). To committees, would an average interview significantly drop a superstar's (presumably) high pre-interview rank? Or would they likely still be ranked highly, and it'd take a BAD interview to really change things? (Note, I'm not trying to be malicious or anything. I'm just wondering random stuff while sitting here in my hotel room hahah)
  8. I emailed my program's admin for MUN and they said everything should be fine by saturday, so no alternative interview formats will be offered. YMMV though
  9. Where do people usually put their stuff at socials? I have to get to airports soon after (or even partway through) the socials but it'd be so weird to bring a suitcase to the restaurants
  10. Varies by specialty, but this usually means multiple one-on-one/two stations at the interview if they choose this format over panel
  11. Yes it's exactly as it sounds. You and 1-2 staff and/or residents
  12. Woah, did your classmates email the PDs themselves? Or go through program admin/secretaries and therefore the reconsideration request reached the PD indirectly
  13. I've heard this statistic several times too but have trouble wrapping my mind around it. E.g. for the rads OP, they got 5 interviews. Based on the program pages, most schools have 4 spots. So to match to their top 3, they would be in the top 20 of ~120 rads applicants? I'm godawful with math, so that doesn't sound right hahah By the way to OP, hang in there! Based on what my buddies are telling me, it's a very competitive year for radiology. So 5 interviews is very respectable.
  14. Thanks for the encouragement! I'll email once the holiday break is over, and will keep everyone here updated on how things go.
  15. Long story short: I did an elective at a program, got good feedback while I was there, but ended up waitlisted. Is it ok to email the program asking about the likelihood of getting an interview, or maybe even asking them to reconsider? Not sure what the protocol is for waitlists. It is a popular program and so I don't think there will be lots of people turning down invites...
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