Med and dating

[Gametime24]

Perhaps. The Rad I know is single though and so is the Ortho. My Family doc does have a family, you're right. Perhaps I am being ignorant, I just have trouble imagining the schedule. I guess il see soon enough.

 

Yeah, you are. I shadowed a guy in Rads here that still drinks with my prof on the weekends (in his early 30s) and he has a wife and two kids, whom he helped raise during residency.

 

Things are definitely possible, you just have to open your eyes and make them work.

[future doc]

You're 18 and late in the game. Soon you'll discover you have a penis. You'll want to use it. You will do so, but only sporadically judging on the social skills and non-charismatic traits you've demonstrated on here so far. From that point on, two things may happen :

 

1) I'm wrong and you get laid like crazy. After a while, you realize something's missing. You want a stable girl. You go and find her and be happy for a while, relationships aren't so overrated now, are they? But that's until she dumps you (and I can't see how any woman wouldn't do that).

 

2) You can't dip your love stick anywhere and will settle for a relationship with an unattractive girl just so you can get that liquid stress out every now and then.

 

My point is - you don't know anything. So don't say anything.

 

Orcamute would you like some aloe vera? CUZ YOU JUST GOT BURNED!!!

[Orcamute]

Orcamute would you like some aloe vera? CUZ YOU JUST GOT BURNED!!!

 

Not really, I am 27 and have had girlfriends all my life. My girlfriend is taking the Biomedical Engineering program while I'm going to meds..so I am worried about time conflicts which is perfectly normal.

 

You can't create a strawman fallacy and then attack it, or perhaps you can..but you would just be in a delusional state of self righteousness and *******dry. I think I was being perfectly logical and showed humility admitting that I may be ignorant. There is no need for this kind of behavior on this forum and the fact that you condemn it speaks more of your character than my ignorance as somebody who doesn't have the experience.

 

It's funny how people think they are "witty" and "sharp" when they peacock and copy the behaviour of late night talk show hosts. As if we really need more rudeness and jack asses running around with their **** in their hands showing how good they are at pissing on people.

 

Perhaps this is why the site is full of *******s, hm?

[dazzle]

yeah to be fair to you orca, didn't think the two options exhausted all possibilities

 

anyway, that is some depressing stuff.

 

Renin, why don't you date younger men?

 

edit: and why not online dating? I'm sure you have so many assets that some men want, you just haven't met those kinds of men. On a moral dimension, doctors are impressive people.

[Gametime24]

Not really, I am 27 and have had girlfriends all my life. My girlfriend is taking the Biomedical Engineering program while I'm going to meds..so I am worried about time conflicts which is perfectly normal.

 

You can't create a strawman fallacy and then attack it, or perhaps you can..but you would just be in a delusional state of self righteousness and *******dry. I think I was being perfectly logical and showed humility admitting that I may be ignorant. There is no need for this kind of behavior on this forum and the fact that you condemn it speaks more of your character than my ignorance as somebody who doesn't have the experience.

 

It's funny how people think they are "witty" and "sharp" when they peacock and copy the behaviour of late night talk show hosts. As if we really need more rudeness and jack asses running around with their **** in their hands showing how good they are at pissing on people.

 

Perhaps this is why the site is full of *******s, hm?

 

This was a legit post. Props on it, I still disagree with you about relationships, but at least you're being civil. I have a girlfriend too btw and she is going to be doing a masters at Queens while I start my MD there. So I hear you about worrying about time constraints, however, my opinion is that we will get through it okay, we love each other and have gotten through everything else so far (which has had non-academic stressors MUCH larger than this over the past year), so why wouldnt we be able to get through this as well?

[McMasterHopeful]

Not really, I am 27 and have had girlfriends all my life. My girlfriend is taking the Biomedical Engineering program while I'm going to meds..so I am worried about time conflicts which is perfectly normal.

 

You can't create a strawman fallacy and then attack it, or perhaps you can..but you would just be in a delusional state of self righteousness and *******dry. I think I was being perfectly logical and showed humility admitting that I may be ignorant. There is no need for this kind of behavior on this forum and the fact that you condemn it speaks more of your character than my ignorance as somebody who doesn't have the experience.

 

Touche. I wish a had a French keyboard right now.

OK maybe I don't, but I digress.

[carolynH]

Well at least this weeds out the weaker men. We deserve real men who can handle confident women, am i right?

 

I think only weaker men can handle confident women because they're weak. I wish I'm wrong but I can't see a manly man tolerating being a stay-at-home husband or earning 1/10th of what his wife makes and still has pride and confidence. I really wish I'm wrong!

[Bobthebuilder]

I think only weaker men can handle confident women because they're weak. I wish I'm wrong but I can't see a manly man tolerating being a stay-at-home husband or earning 1/10th of what his wife makes and still has pride and confidence. I really wish I'm wrong!

 

Personnally I'd have no problem with earning less than my wife...however I wouldn't be a stay-at-home husband, definetly not.

[NutritionRunner]

I think only weaker men can handle confident women because they're weak. I wish I'm wrong but I can't see a manly man tolerating being a stay-at-home husband or earning 1/10th of what his wife makes and still has pride and confidence. I really wish I'm wrong!

 

Or you just decide not to have children. *shrug* I know lots of "power couples" that have either chosen not to have any children, or who have chosen to have a live-in nanny or someone similar to care for their children while they both work, when neither partner wants to sacrifice their career aspirations for their family. While I personally don't think the nanny option is a good option, there seem to be plenty of couples that make it work. I'm not sure how their children feel about it, however.

[Orcamute]

Earning less? That's fine. Stay at home dad?? I better be reading radio graphs at home. Even if I was a millionaire, I would still be working..at least part time.

[carolynH]

Personnally I'd have no problem with earning less than my wife...however I wouldn't be a stay-at-home husband, definetly not.

 

I'm not talking about one making $100,000 and the other $60,000. I'm talking about $500,000 vs $40,000. Are you still okay with it?

[shadow_knight]

Earning less? That's fine. Stay at home dad?? I better be reading radio graphs at home. Even if I was a millionaire, I would still be working..at least part time.

 

Dont wanna give the significant other a chance to berate you on that ehh?.

 

Hijacking the topic a bit. I used to be a moron in undergrad, refusing to get into any relationship due to fear of compromising academic performance. Is their a big enough pool of single females in med school to give me a chance for redemption ?

[dazzle]

I think only weaker men can handle confident women because they're weak. I wish I'm wrong but I can't see a manly man tolerating being a stay-at-home husband or earning 1/10th of what his wife makes and still has pride and confidence. I really wish I'm wrong!

 

 

It might take strength to overcome the social stigma with being a stay-at-home dad. There isn't a formula for being a strong or weak man. It all depends on how one lives it.

[Orcamute]

Dont wanna give the significant other a chance to berate you on that ehh?.

 

Hijacking the topic a bit. I used to be a moron in undergrad, refusing to get into any relationship due to fear of compromising academic performance. Is their a big enough pool of single females in med school to give me a chance for redemption ?

 

I want to have more of a purpose and impact in life than just loathing and existing. The sole purpose that I am in Medicine.

 

Money is just security and helps buy you fast cars.

 

Tis all.

 

@carolyn, so you want to be a sugar momma? I think it would be better if you look at more primitive, simple men than intellectuals. I can't imagine any educated individual to wanting to be in such a shadow. The "pool boy", "Gym Tan Laundry" type..perhaps.

[fugacity]

Dont wanna give the significant other a chance to berate you on that ehh?.

 

Hijacking the topic a bit. I used to be a moron in undergrad, refusing to get into any relationship due to fear of compromising academic performance. Is their a big enough pool of single females in med school to give me a chance for redemption ?

 

I certainly hope you are right friend, as I am in the same situation. For me it wasn't fear as much as supply and demand. I did my undergrad in engineering.

 

Note to orcamute, you better be careful about your girlfriend starting engineering. Supply and demand

[Exocytosis]

@carolyn, so you want to be a sugar momma? I think it would be better if you look at more primitive, simple men than intellectuals.

 

I think you're confounding personal drive and intellect. I'm sure there are lots of smart people who would love having the freedom to pursue their interests without having to worry about money. 'Finally I can just paint all day' etc

[carolynH]

 

@carolyn, so you want to be a sugar momma? I think it would be better if you look at more primitive, simple men than intellectuals. I can't imagine any educated individual to wanting to be in such a shadow. The "pool boy", "Gym Tan Laundry" type..perhaps.

 

No, I'm sad because I can't tolerate being a sugar momma. It's just difficult for a female doctor to find a s.o. who can match both intellectually and financially.

[ralk]

I'm not talking about one making $100,000 and the other $60,000. I'm talking about $500,000 vs $40,000. Are you still okay with it?

 

I'd be ok with that arrangement in general. When it comes to making money, to me the big financial questions are for a married couple are, in order of importance:

 

1) Are we making enough money together to support ourselves, our children, and to meet our current and future goals?

 

2) Are we both happy with each others' contribution towards those goals?

 

3) Am I satisfied with the compensation for my work (that is, am I being paid enough for my time/expertise)?

 

If the answer is yes to all those questions, then the discrepancy in salary really shouldn't matter. It should really only impact question 2), and that comes down to my hypothetical wife's expectations. Really, if I, as a husband, am working hard at my job/career and doing my best to support my wife's job/career, that's all that can be realistically expected. Any marriage should come from a place of support and respect, so as long as that's there, the only problems I can see are superficial and should be overridden by the more fundamental strengths of the relationship.

[ralk]

Dont wanna give the significant other a chance to berate you on that ehh?.

 

Hijacking the topic a bit. I used to be a moron in undergrad, refusing to get into any relationship due to fear of compromising academic performance. Is their a big enough pool of single females in med school to give me a chance for redemption ?

 

There's a big enough pool of single females in life; no reason to restrict yourself to the med school crowd!

[Orcamute]

No, I'm sad because I can't tolerate being a sugar momma. It's just difficult for a female doctor to find a s.o. who can match both intellectually and financially.

 

If you're sexy or at the very least woman like..youl find a good one.

 

I certainly hope you are right friend, as I am in the same situation. For me it wasn't fear as much as supply and demand. I did my undergrad in engineering.

 

Note to orcamute, you better be careful about your girlfriend starting engineering. Supply and demand

 

Blue eyes, Blonde Hair, Bodybuilder, Hockey player attending medical school. I am not too worried. /#alphamalestatus lmao

[future_doc]

I think only weaker men can handle confident women because they're weak. I wish I'm wrong but I can't see a manly man tolerating being a stay-at-home husband or earning 1/10th of what his wife makes and still has pride and confidence. I really wish I'm wrong!

 

You are wrong. I know a couple where the woman earns 8x what her husband earns. He used to be a bad boy. He earns enough to buy and maintain his truck, go out drinking with his pals and she supports the household, home purchase, mortgage, food, utilities, etc, kids, their clothing, activities and schooling, vacations, etc.

 

He is anything but weak. They have always been happy and remain so. There is no money issue. He could not have afforded this lifestyle otherwise. He never would have afforded to marry and have kids. He is not a lesser man for this arrangement.

 

Our perception is our reality. If you perceive the man as weak due to his inadequate earning power, than he is for you. In my case, the earning power or potential of a potential life partner is not an issue.

[Orcamute]

You are wrong. I know a couple where the woman earns 8x what her husband earns. He used to be a bad boy. He earns enough to buy and maintain his truck, go out drinking with his pals and she supports the household, home purchase, mortgage, food, utilities, etc, kids, their clothing, activities and schooling, vacations, etc.

 

He is anything but weak. They have always been happy and remain so. There is no money issue. He could not have afforded this lifestyle otherwise. He never would have afforded to marry and have kids. He is not a lesser man for this arrangement.

 

Our perception is our reality. If you perceive the man as weak due to his inadequate earning power, than he is for you. In my case, the earning power or potential of a potential life partner is not an issue.

 

What does that even mean?

[aaronjw]

What does that even mean?

 

If you don't know what a bad boy is then you aren't one, have never been one, will never be one, and aren't the alpha you think you are

 

Further to the alpha thing... alpha's need not advertise. It's just known.

[future_doc]

The bad boy was the life of any party, had charisma and women flocked to him. He drank hard, was a womanizer and has an exceedingly generous and good heart. However, he does not think twice about hooking the tobogan to the back of his truck durng a snowfall and letting his daughters slide on the tobogan behind his truck driving at a modest speed on residental streets. His wife has put a stop to this, he has no longer been a womanizer, but he enjoys his drinks, his drinking buddies and oogling at gorgeous women. His work is not his priority. He loves life, loves sports and is exceedingly charming. He was a videographer at a hospital videoing operations until someone switched a porno and nobody believed he was not the culprit b/c he is a bad boy, so he wad fired with cause. He is now a political organizer. Prior to marriage he was able to charm the panties of women (good girls) at their first meeting. He is great at skiing, skating, playing hocket and football.

[Orcamute]

If you don't know what a bad boy is then you aren't one, have never been one, will never be one, and aren't the alpha you think you are

 

Further to the alpha thing... alpha's need not advertise. It's just known.

 

..in real life.

 

I've been mistaken for a gun shop, twice.

 

I don't drink or j-walk, I drive the speed limit in my toyota matrix and I don't like parties or loud environments. But I am beautiful, in every single way. And you'd know that if you knew me.