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Hey,

 

For those of you who went to med school in a new, remote city, how have you been able to keep in touch with your friends from undergrad?

 

I've accepted an offer at a distant school based on things I like about its curriculum (vs. the curriculum at my old school). But I'm really really sad about leaving the amazing friends I've made at undergrad. Last night as I was sharing the news with one friend, I started crying and just couldn't stop. Even though I might be able to see them once or twice a year, I feel like I'm leaving them forever. Sure, there's chatting once a while on the phone or on facebook, but that just isn't the same. I'm scared that we'll all be busy and I'll basically lose all contact with them, like with some of my favourite people from high school.

 

If I accepted the offer at my old school, which it's still not too late to do, then I'd be with some of them for two more years (or even more depending on their grad school plans). But...I'll be able to make new friends at the new school. Plus, I'd have to leave them eventually since I plan on settling out west.

 

Any thoughts, advice, experiences to share?

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Hey,

 

For those of you who went to med school in a new, remote city, how have you been able to keep in touch with your friends from undergrad?

 

I've accepted an offer at a distant school based on things I like about its curriculum (vs. the curriculum at my old school). But I'm really really sad about leaving the amazing friends I've made at undergrad. Last night as I was sharing the news with one friend, I started crying and just couldn't stop. Even though I might be able to see them once or twice a year, I feel like I'm leaving them forever. Sure, there's chatting once a while on the phone or on facebook, but that just isn't the same. I'm scared that we'll all be busy and I'll basically lose all contact with them, like with some of my favourite people from high school.

 

If I accepted the offer at my old school, which it's still not too late to do, then I'd be with some of them for two more years (or even more depending on their grad school plans). But...I'll be able to make new friends at the new school. Plus, I'd have to leave them eventually since I plan on settling out west.

 

Any thoughts, advice, experiences to share?

 

Wipe those tears away, Calgary girl! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! New friends await... I had the opposite problem.... all my friends left toronto for undergrad... but i still see them, so it will be fine.

 

P.S. Dont be a crybaby, will scare away all your potential new friends :P

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I felt the same way at the end of my undergrad. Keep in mind that people's lives move in different directions, and regardless of what you do or your proximity, you can't guarantee that things will stay the same way as in undergrad. You'll stay good friends with the people you are genuinely close to, and may drift apart from less-close friends.

 

I would do what's good for your future right now, even if it does seem like an unhappy decision. Ultimately you are only postponing the inevitable, as there is a good chance at least some of your friends will move to new cities to pursue school, jobs, boy/girlfriends, etc. over the coming years. Enjoy the time you have left and don't dwell on it!

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You'll make new friends. I'm not saying they will replace the old ones but think about it.. how many people from elementary school did you stay in touch with? How about high school? It's the same with undergrad.

 

In the end, there's always skype. ;)

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Wipe those tears away, Calgary girl! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! New friends await... I had the opposite problem.... all my friends left toronto for undergrad... but i still see them, so it will be fine.

 

P.S. Dont be a crybaby, will scare away all your potential new friends :P

 

Meh, some ppl love the opportunity to tease their new crybaby friends ;)

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what about a keeping in touch with a boyfriend or girlfriend? say you are about to enter in a long distance relationship, boyfriend/girlfriend leaving the country for the next 4 years. Does anyone have any success stories? personal experience and advice?

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Yesh... those tears of loneliness are a delicacy for some

 

Cartman: Mmmm... yes.... your tears are sooo delicious!

 

Sigh. Lol.

 

And, contrary to what some people may believe, male friends are a hell of a lot better with teary girls than female friends are. ;)

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Sigh. Lol.

 

And, contrary to what some people may believe, male friends are a hell of a lot better with teary girls than female friends are. ;)

 

Are you sure its not just because the male friends are trying to catch the girls on the rebound? :P

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Are you sure its not just because the male friends are trying to catch the girls on the rebound? :P

 

Why do you automatically assume it's a rebound? I bawled my ass off watching Temple Grandin last week, none of my friends thought I was on a rebound. Lol.

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