filter105 Posted November 6, 2010 Report Share Posted November 6, 2010 Hello, I feel at unease and I hate it when I'm right and when bad things happened. I am a Master's student and I can't say it's been wonderful so far. I am a private person and finds it extremely hard to get close to people/kid arond ever since one traumatic friendship. The thing is I really hope my referees doesn't say anything bad about me. My relationship with my supervisor is not great, there had been lot of issues so I was nervous/anxious to death when I requested a letter. (I kept thinking maybe I sholdn't have ...It's a very complicated and convoluted situation....) I don't have a great advantage and I just seroiusly hope that referees were fine. ('this person is not bright and I would never wish to see her practicing...etc) I'm at point in my life where I don't know what else I would do beside medicine. I know bunch of ppl who are in nursing, optometry, pharmacy and dentistry and well..... I really can't say I have a passion for them. I just want to be a family physician who does research on the side/or specialist (possibly in ob/gyn given my research). I...just want to study medicine. I wonder if anyone had a problem/worried about their not-so-stellar reference situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leap87 Posted November 6, 2010 Report Share Posted November 6, 2010 Hello, I feel at unease and I hate it when I'm right and when bad things happened. I am a Master's student and I can't say it's been wonderful so far. I am a private person and finds it extremely hard to get close to people/kid arond ever since one traumatic friendship. The thing is I really hope my referees doesn't say anything bad about me. My relationship with my supervisor is not great, there had been lot of issues so I was nervous/anxious to death when I requested a letter. (I kept thinking maybe I sholdn't have ...It's a very complicated and convoluted situation....) I don't have a great advantage and I just seroiusly hope that referees were fine. ('this person is not bright and I would never wish to see her practicing...etc) I'm at point in my life where I don't know what else I would do beside medicine. I know bunch of ppl who are in nursing, optometry, pharmacy and dentistry and well..... I really can't say I have a passion for them. I just want to be a family physician who does research on the side/or specialist (possibly in ob/gyn given my research). I...just want to study medicine. I wonder if anyone had a problem/worried about their not-so-stellar reference situation. Okay. I'm going to try and boost your self esteem and I really hope this will work. You don't know what the referees said about you and what kind of reference letters they've written. Everyone hopes that their referees don't say anything bad... obviously. So, stop assuming and wait for the outcome. You've already submitted the references, so worrying about it is not going to resolve the problem if they gave a horrible reference (which I don't think they did if they know how important this is for you). And when you say "issues", what do you mean? Like you disagreed on research or was it something else? Because it is normal to not always agree with your supervisor. You're 2 different people with 2 different mind sets. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adversary Posted November 7, 2010 Report Share Posted November 7, 2010 What's done is done if the references have already been sent. In the future, do make your requests stating whether they can give you a "strong reference of support". That way, people can say no if they don't feel they know you well enough or positively. I sat on a DMD admissions committee before and have come across references specifically stating the applicant should NOT be admitted into DMD school. Trust me, people can and do write what they really think of you. And yes, that reference was taken at face value. Hello, I feel at unease and I hate it when I'm right and when bad things happened. I am a Master's student and I can't say it's been wonderful so far. I am a private person and finds it extremely hard to get close to people/kid arond ever since one traumatic friendship. The thing is I really hope my referees doesn't say anything bad about me. My relationship with my supervisor is not great, there had been lot of issues so I was nervous/anxious to death when I requested a letter. (I kept thinking maybe I sholdn't have ...It's a very complicated and convoluted situation....) I don't have a great advantage and I just seroiusly hope that referees were fine. ('this person is not bright and I would never wish to see her practicing...etc) I'm at point in my life where I don't know what else I would do beside medicine. I know bunch of ppl who are in nursing, optometry, pharmacy and dentistry and well..... I really can't say I have a passion for them. I just want to be a family physician who does research on the side/or specialist (possibly in ob/gyn given my research). I...just want to study medicine. I wonder if anyone had a problem/worried about their not-so-stellar reference situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lactic Folly Posted November 7, 2010 Report Share Posted November 7, 2010 Do you have any other potential referees as backup? As Adversary said, you should always ask your referee if they are able (know you well enough, are available, are comfortable) writing you a strong letter of support. This will alleviate much of your concerns when they answer yes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thegame11 Posted November 8, 2010 Report Share Posted November 8, 2010 Hello, I feel at unease and I hate it when I'm right and when bad things happened. I am a Master's student and I can't say it's been wonderful so far. I am a private person and finds it extremely hard to get close to people/kid arond ever since one traumatic friendship. The thing is I really hope my referees doesn't say anything bad about me. My relationship with my supervisor is not great, there had been lot of issues so I was nervous/anxious to death when I requested a letter. (I kept thinking maybe I sholdn't have ...It's a very complicated and convoluted situation....) I don't have a great advantage and I just seroiusly hope that referees were fine. ('this person is not bright and I would never wish to see her practicing...etc) I'm at point in my life where I don't know what else I would do beside medicine. I know bunch of ppl who are in nursing, optometry, pharmacy and dentistry and well..... I really can't say I have a passion for them. I just want to be a family physician who does research on the side/or specialist (possibly in ob/gyn given my research). I...just want to study medicine. I wonder if anyone had a problem/worried about their not-so-stellar reference situation. Some of the osteopathic medical schools in the US don't ask for a letter from your supervisor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cryptic.living Posted November 15, 2010 Report Share Posted November 15, 2010 Inspired I wouldn't worry excessively about it. Speaking of my own experience, my supervisor and I disagree on a daily basis. Doesn't mean that they will write me a bad reference letter ... because I do work hard and produce results. Ergo, if you work hard and produce results, your supervisor will say so and that's what matters. Regarding your standoffishness, etc. Your supervisor is your referee for your work - not your social interactions. As a graduate student, you really can suffer from Asperger's and still be the teacher's favourite. I mean, they want you to sit in a corner and crunch numbers, right ? It is very likely that your supervisor doesn't even notice your standoffishness. Sometimes, I almost think that some form of social ineptitude is a prerequisite for succeeding in grad school. These are just my opinions, of course. In short, don't worry about it ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slashsev01 Posted November 17, 2010 Report Share Posted November 17, 2010 all those profs write letters to undergrad students for medschool they barely know... at least yours will be a step up..as long as you havent killed someone in the lab..your letter should be better than the average undergrad who has taken max 2 courses with the same prof Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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