Fullmetal_Biochemist Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 Just feel a bit confuse and dunno what to do for the moment, and I feel like my grade might go down if I don't settle this out soon ... I met my gf's best friend and I think I like her ... but I like my gf too. I tried not to pay any attention to my gf's best friend, yet I unconciously wandering on her fb and look at her photos ... urghh ... is it ethical? My GPA dropt down from 3.95 to 3.89 after one term! and I am in my 3rd year already It wont be a disaster now, but who know what will happen in my 4th year Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UofTkid Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 why does this post lack keywords such as chances,GPA, MCAT and ECs? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chojo Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 Just feel a bit confuse and dunno what to do for the moment, and I feel like my grade might go down if I don't settle this out soon ... I met my gf's best friend and I think I like her ... but I like my gf too. I tried not to pay any attention to my gf's best friend, yet I unconciously wandering on her fb and look at her photos ... urghh ... is it ethical? Hmm.. maybe this should go in the Lounge.. Anyways, LOL. This is actually kind of funny, sorry. Honestly, you can't force yourself to stop feeling a certain way. It's like lying to yourself. Looks like you're gonna be in an sticky situation XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skikey Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 I think you're looking for advice on the wrong forum my friend, but I'll still try to help you out. What are your priorities right now? Your personal relationships, or getting good grades? I know it might not be what you want to hear, but my guess is that it's probably best for you to put all your distractions aside and focus on school. If you can really afford it, just take a good hard look at yourself, have a good talk to your girlfriend and settle things the way you feel appropriate before they get out of hand. Hope that helps, but really, this isn't the place to be looking for this kind of advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
<abstract> Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 Just feel a bit confuse and dunno what to do for the moment, and I feel like my grade might go down if I don't settle this out soon ... I met my gf's best friend and I think I like her ... but I like my gf too. I tried not to pay any attention to my gf's best friend, yet I unconsciously wandering on her fb and look at her photos ... urghh ... is it ethical? Well, at this point based on the information you have given, I don't think it is unethical at the moment. It is natural for everyone to be interested in others at one point or another. The key point here is that you have not done anything wrong YET! Now, are you physically attracted to your gf's friend or is it more of an emotional attraction. Love can be a funny thing. If this is just superficial, I am sure your judgment will get the better of you and you will realize the good thing you have going with your gf. If however, you for more emotionally attracted to this girl ( ie: personality, interests.. ect.. ) you should analyze your relationship with your g.f. . In any case, I doubt, her best friend will be interested in you if you dump your g.f. for her. Take this with a grain of salt, as I am not in a relationship at the moment. Cheers, ABS ***this thread should be moved to the Lounge **** Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obi Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 People have already helped you out with some pretty solid advice. I'm just going to throw in my 2cents with a giant LOL at the fact that you asked "is this ethical" It made my day Breaking up with your girlfriend because you like her best friend better doesn't pop up in the CanMED Roles as a physician faux pas so i think you're safe on that count. Premed's really freak me out sometimes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
12321 Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 why does this post lack keywords such as chances,GPA, MCAT and ECs? hahaha 10characters.....slgkajlskjldkfgjalskdj....you happy? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thatonekid Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 Hmm.. maybe this should go in the Lounge.. ***this thread should be moved to the Lounge **** Done. .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fullmetal_Biochemist Posted May 24, 2012 Author Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 got a few low 80s in my last term. I can't blame anyone but myself for being distracted ... and for some reason, i think that it is unethical, not because it will show up on my med app lolz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
12321 Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 Just feel a bit confuse and dunno what to do for the moment, and I feel like my grade might go down if I don't settle this out soon ... I met my gf's best friend and I think I like her ... but I like my gf too. I tried not to pay any attention to my gf's best friend, yet I unconciously wandering on her fb and look at her photos ... urghh ... is it ethical? My GPA dropt down from 3.95 to 3.89 after one term! and I am in my 3rd year already It wont be a disaster now, but who know what will happen in my 4th year Calm down. What you have described is just life. These things happen. Others here have offered advice that seem to make sense. Consider those. Also a difference of 0.06 in your GPA is not that earth-shattering. Plus, we don't know if there are any confounding variables such as difficulty of courses from one term to the next. I do feel for you. However I've got 99 problems... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fullmetal_Biochemist Posted May 24, 2012 Author Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 but to be honest, if my best friend's gf dump him and run after me, I would never accept that. so, i guess same goes for my case too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
obi Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 If you didn't explicitly say you were in third year i would have thought you were a first year for sure. Grow some balls, figure out what you want, and act on whatever you decide. A bunch of e-people (us) will not be able to shed some magical light on this situation for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
future_doc Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 You have a no win situation. Break up with your gf. Her friend won't go out with you. Try to go out with both, it won't happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aaronjw Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 You have a no win situation. Break up with your gf. Her friend won't go out with you. Try to go out with both, it won't happen. You'd be surprised... Lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fullmetal_Biochemist Posted May 24, 2012 Author Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 You'd be surprised... Lmao Does this mean i can go out with both? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MCATwannabe Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 Does this mean i can go out with both? Get in there boy. Sorry buddy, I'm just totally LMAO with the "Is this ethical" question. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a1b1 Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 You have a no win situation. Break up with your gf. Her friend won't go out with you. Try to go out with both, it won't happen. Exactly! The switch cant happen, haven't you guys watched seinfeld? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
future_doc Posted May 24, 2012 Report Share Posted May 24, 2012 You'd be surprised... Lmao We're too young. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Legion Posted May 25, 2012 Report Share Posted May 25, 2012 Just feel a bit confuse and dunno what to do for the moment, and I feel like my grade might go down if I don't settle this out soon ... I met my gf's best friend and I think I like her ... but I like my gf too. I tried not to pay any attention to my gf's best friend, yet I unconciously wandering on her fb and look at her photos ... urghh ... is it ethical? My GPA dropt down from 3.95 to 3.89 after one term! and I am in my 3rd year already It wont be a disaster now, but who know what will happen in my 4th year Thats maaaaadness This would be a great scenario question for med interview Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markov79 Posted May 25, 2012 Report Share Posted May 25, 2012 lol it's like you were begging to get flamed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Mist Posted May 27, 2012 Report Share Posted May 27, 2012 Hmm.. maybe this should go in the Lounge.. Anyways, LOL. This is actually kind of funny, sorry. Honestly, you can't force yourself to stop feeling a certain way. It's like lying to yourself. Looks like you're gonna be in an sticky situation XD I see what you did there, you tricky dog. Top notch! OP: I absolutely recommend trying to date both girls as once. My pro-tip would be to initiate study sessions with the new girl! That way you will have an excuse for "late nights in the library" or what have you. More importantly, this extended time together will let her see how awesome you are. Seriously though, your should realize the vast majority of college couples do not make it through to the end. This is one of the major reasons for dating, finding the right fit. If it don't feel right, it don't feel right and I would be inclined to get out of there ASAP regardless of whether or not there was someone else waiting in the wings. The bottom line is that it isn't fair to either person to continue on after one of you has come to the realization that it isn't working. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trojjanhorse Posted May 28, 2012 Report Share Posted May 28, 2012 Pro tip? really? OP, if you are getting such thoughts about female #2, while being with female #1, then there is a great chance that your relationship will crumble soon and won't be permanent. In that case, break up. Don't use female #1 to get to know female #2. That's a d*ck move. Rumours spread like herpes, so don't put yourself in a vulnerable situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fullmetal_Biochemist Posted May 30, 2012 Author Report Share Posted May 30, 2012 >_< they both ignored me now awww Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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